Thursday, April 9, 2015

A Poem for Co-Op

There once was a family
who began to homeschool...
they really enjoyed it
and thought it was cool.

Having more time to travel
and field trips with friends,
this family was happy...
Homeschool a Godsend!

Last fall, it got better....
they joined a co-op!
The best of both worlds
and their fun never stops.

Two Wednesdays a month,
they learn many things.
"We really love co-op!"
this mom always sings.

The mom teaches "littles",
 her fun never ends!
"See you later!" her son says,
as he learns with his friends.

PE, Woodwork, Sewing
Music, Cooking and Speech.
Her son goes to his classes,
as his mom goes to teach.

She would go one way
and he'd go another.
The happy kid loved it,
and so did his mother.

Like a really cool school,
but so much more.
Learning, fun and fellowship
many ways to explore.

Next fall, we'll be back...
for another great year!
"Co-op is so awesome!"
is our family's new cheer!



Monday, March 2, 2015

My Twelve Lessons for These Twelve Months

Today marks the year anniversary of our beginning life as a homeschool family!  Whoa....what a year it has been! One year ago, we "took the red pill", stepped out of our ordinary lives and jumped into the rabbit hole of homeschooling. It has been a year of hard work, growth, adjustments and many changes. Would we do it again? In a New York minute!

Our son has learned a wealth of information as a homeschool kid. My husband and I have seen tremendous growth and progress in our kid. He is happier, he is steadily gaining his confidence back and he likes learning again. He is pursuing his interests and he is working at grade level. I could go on and on (as I usually do)...

Instead, I 'd like to share 12 things that I've learned in the past 12 months of our first, homeschool year. So here we go...
  1. Homeschooling has reminded me that I still love to learn. I love learning and I never want to stop learning something new every day of my life.
  2. Life is meant to be lived out of your comfort zone. I never thought I could teach math (I can!), move our family twice in one year (We are!) or begin the adoption process for our second child and plan on becoming parents again almost 13 years since our bringing home our son (Doing that now!). My comfort zone was safe, but it wasn't that much fun. Go figure.
  3. I have made the BEST friends in the world through homeschooling! Our son has an amazing group of homeschool friends, but guess what? SO.DO.I. I have this stellar group of homeschool mamas that have been so supportive and incredible during this past year. I love them so much and I am so thankful to be friends with them all!
  4. I watched our son fly a plane in January and I didn't vomit or pass out from worry! My husband and I just smiled, waved and trusted him to the Lord. Of course, we prayed for him, but then we went out to lunch while he co-piloted a plane to Massachusetts. (Have I mentioned lately how much we love him being in Civil Air Patrol?) Turns out, getting out of my zone GOT MY KID OUT OF HIS COMFORT ZONE. He flew a plane during his first year of homeschool. It's surreal just typing that sentence.
  5. I love the outdoors...just not lately, as this winter has been pretty heinous! Homeschooling gives us the flexibility to go outside more often- as a family, with friends and just in general.
  6. I love to travel. Always have, always will. Last year, we took six trips as a homeschool family. Guess what's happening again this year? Maycation: The Sequel!
  7. I've been pleasantly surprised by how many friends and family members have supported us in our decision to homeschool. Don't get me wrong, I've always known that we have supportive friends and family. However, our decision to homeschool just reinforced the knowledge that we have a very loving and supportive family. And friends.
  8. I can teach math and its not torturous for our son! See # 2, I just like saying that I can actually teach math and I'm pretty good at it.
  9. My husband is the BEST computer science/computer programming/ technology/ automotive/bass teacher in the world! He's also a pretty good "principal", too.
  10. We have grown exponentially in our faith and how we worship as a family. God is good all the time and all the time God is good! This year had its share of challenges (i.e. medical challenges, transitioning to homeschooling), but we learned that the more we let go of our lives, the better we can realize that God is always in control and He can show us that His plans are FAR BETTER than any plans we could imagine!
  11. Our yellow lab is very spoiled. I've always known this fact. He just loves having us home more often. As a result of our being home a little more, we get to see his "inner diva" on a regular basis.
  12. I.LOVE.HOMESCHOOLING.

If you're considering homeschooling, I just have one question for you....why haven't you started already?

  #nowisthetimetohomeschool

Monday, February 2, 2015

Life after "the red pill"

Well, it's been exactly eleven months since we started our adventure as a homeschool family! This time has really flown by and our family has grown in so many ways. Physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually...every way imaginable and in every way for the better. My journey as a homeschool mom hasn't been an easy one, but I know that growth comes from time, commitment, hard work and taking risks. Does our family still love homeschooling as much as we did eleven months ago??  Nah! We love it more!!

It's also been eleven months since I began blogging as a homeschool mom. In my first post, I likened our journey of starting homeschool to that of Neo taking the red pill in the movie "The Matrix". He goes from an ordinary guy in a safe world that he has always known, to living an extraordinary life in a world that was broken beyond his wildest dreams. He left his mundane routine and safety net to find wisdom and courage. When he took the red pill, he learned the truth and it broke free from his comfort zone.

Maybe I'm being a bit dramatic , but I still think our homeschool journey is similar to Neo's journey. Most families don't realize there is more than one environment for a child to learn. They think the world of classroom learning is the only option. So many parents still think that they're not the ones in charge of their child's education. Even if you consider yourself to be a "proactive parent" in your child's school, you can still find yourself running out of options as with the seriously-changing, school environment. If you don't think schools are changing in big ways, I've got news for you- they are! Whatever the reason or reasons...if your children are unhappy in school, that should be enough to take a risk on making a positive change in where and how they learn. Neo didn't realize how monotonous and miserable his life was until he stepped away from it. That's usually how it works in life, isn't it?

Just like Neo, we don't have to be limited to what is presented to us in our environment or by our community. If we're willing to make a big change, we can teach our children to learn "outside the box". Maybe I sound like a Pollyanna, but shouldn't learning be more fun? We can foster their interests, spark their curiosity and plant the seeds of their growth. As homeschool parents, we can build on our children's strengths and give attention to their needs in their own time. There are SO many homeschool curricula, programs, resources, support groups and tools to help parents give a well-rounded education for their kids. Even if you're just remotely considering it, the time has never been better...now is the time to homeschool!

I love seeing our son learn and being a part of his learning journey. He lights up when he learns about the subjects that interest him (history, geography, the military, science, computers, etc.) and he doesn't explode during the subjects that used to be a struggle. Don't get me wrong...math is not always a picnic, but it sure is better than it used to be. He is the coolest son in the world and I'm so blessed to be his mom and to be his teacher!

More and more parents don't like what's going on in their children's schools. They're willing to make the sacrifices and changes to better the way their children will learn. Homeschooling is on the rise. There are approximately 2.2 million homeschooled children in the United States ( "Research Facts on Homeschooling" by Brian Ray, Ph.D., NHERI, January 6, 2015).

Now that is a lot of red pills...


Wednesday, January 7, 2015

My New Year Formula.... If Goals=Yes, then Expectations=No

Expectation: (noun) a belief that something will happen or is likely to happen; a feeling or belief about how successful, good, etc., someone or something will be. (Merriam-Webster Online).

When you become a parent, you quickly learn that the world around you puts expectations on your child. Books tell you "what to expect"- when your child will start eating solid foods, when your child should talk or even when to expect your child to use the potty (ha)!

Of course, expectations only increase as your child gets older. Social expectations, developmental expectations and educational expectations become the norm for the parent. If any of you ever had the displeasure of parent-teacher conferences that were, um, disappointing....you know what I'm talking about!

"He should be able to sit still in circle time."
"She needs to learn how to write her name."
"He needs to know how to write his homework assignment on his own."
"She shouldn't have tantrums at her age."

Yada, yada, yada. Raise your hand if you've ever had a teacher (or anyone else) share their expectations with you. Realistic or not, expectations put a lot of pressure on your kid. Then reality hits....the expectation is not met, or its met later than you planned. See, that's the thing about expectations...you're usually disappointed when they're not met "on time"!

I learned a loooong time ago that kids work on their own time schedules. Expectations should only  be guidelines, not the rule. Expectations can be stressful, especially when a child is aware that he or she isn't "doing" the same thing as their peers. For the past few years, I am sorry to say, that we paid too much attention to the expectations that were placed on our son. The sadder part was when he exceeded expectations in other areas of his life, we didn't celebrate them as much as we could have...since we were so worried about the other things.

As a homeschool mom, I've learned its SO much better to set goals for your child instead of expectations. You see, your child can set his or her own deadline for a goal. If he or she doesn't meet the deadline, that's OK! It can be tweaked. You can adjust the deadline of a goal, but you don't have to give up! Expectation, by its very nature, ties its success to an outside standard or belief in when the deadline should be met. With an expectation, the success lies in the timeline. However, a goal is more personal and its success is measure more in the journey.

That is my goal for 2015....to learn more about the journey of learning and less about when we "should arrive" at its destination.



Wednesday, December 3, 2014

"It's The Most Wonderful Time..."

Ah, December!  I am probably the ONLY member of my family that loves the months that end in "ber" (September, October....you get the idea).  My husband and son are "summer boys". They both share the same birthday in July, their love of warm weather and anything related to summer. They get their party on when the sun is hot.

Me? Not so much. Don't get me wrong, I like summer. However, it's not "my favorite"! (Buddy the Elf, anyone?) Fall  months + the month of December = Happy Me. I lived in the Hudson Valley until I was eleven years old and I recall those "ber" months always putting on a good show! Gorgeous foliage, apples, cool weather made me love the fall! Over two years ago, we moved back to the Hudson Valley and it's still glorious.  Fall, Thanksgiving, Christmas.....December wraps up my favorite time of year.

I remember last December, however, being particularly stressful.  We were in the thralls of a most heinous school year with the primary focus of trying to get used to those "new standards". You know, "CC" (The Standard That Must Not Be Named). Modules. Units. Spending a day or two on a lesson and then quickly moving right along. Three Hours of Homework. Yikes! I still shudder when I think about how miserable my son was...and ultimately, how miserable we all were! Last December, we were pretty burnt out.

This December is a whole new story. We're actually enjoying this Christmas Season with our friends and family. We can still be a little stressed, but not to the point that it is dominating our lives. We're still busy and working very hard, but we're working at a pace that's good for our son.We're finishing up our second quarter and taking a nice Christmas Break. He actually likes the math chapters we're doing right now! He is also finishing up a fun-filled unit on Ancient Rome and he is knee-deep in gladiators, battles and Pompeii. He has also discovered some amazing websites that are introducing him to computer graphics and design. Finally, we've had a blast in our co-op group!  During the past couple of months in co-op, he has been taking woodwork, music, gym, cooking and sewing classes (and making new friends in the co-op).  I've been having fun co-teaching art and music for "the littles". Our son has described this past fall, with regards to homeschool and co-op, as busy and interesting.  The only words that I remember him using to describe last fall were explicative words. Ouch.

Thanks to God, new doors have been opened for us this year! We're living in a bigger, brighter apartment. We're now in the "waiting phase" of adopting our second child. We've been able to travel more often to see family and friends. Finally, we've regained a whole new appreciation for learning as a homeschool family. We're a family that loves to learn together....because learning never stops! ("Mom! Would you stop saying that already???")

Last, but certainly not least, we're a family that's grown in our faith. We can savor December We know that our God is a God of miracles! Christmas is a season of miracles and we've had our share of them. Our family is blessed beyond measure. I can't say that enough.  We are so thankful to be homeschoolers and to live the lives we have...even when things are really tough. This Christmas, we know that the best gift we could ever have is God's love, which came to us through His Son. We are truly able to focus on that miracle, which is the reason for this wondrous season.

"For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life." - John 3:16

Christmas Blessings to you!

Sunday, November 9, 2014

Worst Case Scenario

Worry. I used to be an expert on making mountains out of molehills. What if the car breaks down? Could this headache be meningitis? Is that a funnel cloud on the horizon?  I had a big problem in worrying about the "what ifs" in life. What if the worst case scenario would happen?

Turns out, this year was a year of worst case scenarios. Things like-

  • Having to pull your kid out of school mid-year 
  • Finding out that your kid has another chronic illness
  • Four ER trips for above mentioned kid
  • Breaking a foot
  • One ER trip for above mentioned mom
  • A yellow lab slipping a disc in his spine THE NIGHT BEFORE the first homestudy visit
  • One ER trip for the poor, above mentioned dog
  • Postponing travel plans for a big, family trip
  • And more.. 
Oy. You get the idea. "Hope for the best and prepare for the worst" was a motto of my younger days. I thought that I could better control the situation by preparing myself. Psyching myself and eventually praying for the situation to never happen.

I.HAD.IT.ALL.WRONG.

You can't prepare yourself for the worst case scenario. At least, not mentally, physically or emotionally. You can, however, prepare yourself spiritually.

This year, I've learned that faith is the only way you will make it through the worst case scenario. I've also learned that trials prepare you and help you grow...to be blessed. Today, our pastor gave an amazing teaching from the Book of James about how trials are tools to build our faith and bring us closer to God. Trials are tests. We generally don't like tests. I never did and our son especially doesn't like tests (and yes, you still have tests in homeschool!).

Without the "worst case scenarios" of this year, we also wouldn't have had the best blessings of our lives. The opportunity to homeschool. The opportunity to spend extra time with family members around the country. Moving into an apartment that was a better fit for our family. Learning that we were finally ready to build our family again and taking the steps to adopt a second child. None of these blessings would have happened without the trials of this year.

If we change our mindset, and our "heartset", we can see that the worst case scenario is like a midterm or final exam. A test that will get us ready for the next step or blessing in our lives.

There's a beautiful song called " Blessings" by Laura Story. If you've never heard it, go listen to it! Worst case scenarios. Trials. Tribulations. Tests.

She sums it up so perfectly-

"'Cause what if your blessings come through raindrops?
  What if your healing comes through tears?
  What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You're near?
  What if the trials in this life are Your mercies in disguise?"

I get it now.

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Teachers' Lounge

I always thought the name "Teachers' Lounge" was a misnomer. "Teachers' Lounge" implies that teachers sit around, eat, drink & shoot the breeze....when they're probably trying to come up for air and just make it through the rest of their day (teaching) and night (planning / grading assignments). Teachers' Lounge??  Hardly! Maybe "Teachers' Bunker" or "Faculty Decompression Chamber"!

I still have a lot of respect for teachers, especially in today's society. In addition to teaching their students, they have a lot of other concerns to keep in mind. School and classroom safety, managing unruly behaviors, keeping up with standardized testing, budget cuts...you get the idea. Even though I'm a homeschool mom, my appreciation and gratitude still goes out to teachers.

Homeschool moms (and dads) juggle being teachers for a good part of the day on top of  their other household duties. 24/7. Math, reading, spelling AND vacuuming, dinner and laundry. (Dang! I forgot to take our laundry out of the dryer again!). No break. You're the teacher, cafeteria cook, janitor, nurse, librarian and principal....all rolled up into one person.

So, when do you plan it all? When do you take a breather? You do take breathers, don't you? As for me, "planning time" or "me time" doesn't make it high on my priority list.

I did something today that I don't like to do....I woke up early (Hey! I'm a homeschool mom of an adolescent boy, remember?). God Bless my wonderful husband for waking up so early every day to support our family! My commute from the bedroom to the living room is a lot shorter. I woke up early to help my husband out with something before he left for work and I actually stayed awake. I had about 2 hours of time for myself! I ate breakfast sitting down. I had extra time to read my Bible in peace and quiet. I got caught up on some emails. I lesson planned for a couple of extra weeks and did some prep work for new units. In other words, I didn't cram hours of work into a few minutes.

Maybe this "Teachers Lounge" concept is a little unrealistic for homeschoolers. However, I do hope the idea of "Teacher Time" or "Mom Time" will start to be a regular occurrence in my Google Calendar and in my overloaded Homeschool Planner.

Now, if you'll excuse me...its 10:15 pm and I still need to unload my dryer!